On Wives and Lovers

Songs run through my head often. Any little remark that someone makes often reminds me of a song. I know others who experience this as well. Sometimes those songs are great “thoughts”. They are deep and meaningful. Other times, they can be totally ridiculous.

            For example, a song that I frequently roll around in my head is, “I’ve got a loverly bunch of coconuts. See them all a standing in a row!” And I ask you, what value does this tune and these words have to my little, pea brained psyche?

            Do any of you have this experience?

            Last week, another melody with the words resounded in my mind. “Wives and Lovers”. I could hear the voice of the singer in my head, but wasn’t sure who he was.  Dean Martin? Vic Damone?  So I looked it up.  Aha! Jack Jones sang it. And he nailed it. First Sinatra recorded it but Jack revamped the song in 1964.

            The song shocked me.  Have attitudes ever changed! It’s just amazing how the attitudes of marriage and women and relationships between the husband and wife have changed too!  If you want to listen to it, go to youtube.com and select the Jack Jones rendition of “Wives and Lovers”.

            Let me share the words and we will dance down “Memory Lane” together. And think about all the little implications.

            “Hey, little girl, Comb your hair, fix your make-up.

            Soon he will open the door.

            Don’t think because there’s a ring on your finger,

            You needn’t try any more.”

            “For wives should always be lovers, too.

            Run to his arms the moment he comes

                home to you.

            I’m warning you”.

            “Day after day, there are girls at the office,

            And men will always be men.

            Don’t send him off with your hair still in curlers,

            You may not see him again”.

            “For wives should always be lovers, too. Run to his arms the moment he comes

               home to you,

 He’s almost here”.

           

            “Hey little girl better wear something pretty;

            Something you’d wear to go to the

                city

            And dim all the lights, pour the wine, start the music.

            Time to get ready for love”..

            . I needn’t tell you that this trip down memory lane was like a blast of icy sleet on my senses. What happened? This age treats our men like buffoons, and the television comedies continually make fun of the male. And women?  They have to wear so darn many pairs of pants, they won’t even “understand” this song. The song tells it like it is…or like it was!

What an era! “Keep the romance in the relationship” and “Fix up for your mate” is substantially sound advice. Certainly. Jane Fonda would not appreciate hearing what I am saying, but I ask you, “What have we gained the past 50 years, anyway?”

This is what we have lost…Deterioration of marriages, breakdown of the family, lack of respect for one another.

In reading some of the comments on this “you tube” site, I liked this one. It says,

            “I don't see anything wrong with wanting to look sexy when your man comes home! I remember those days and it was a lot sexier than it is now! Women were genuine and men loved looking at them and taking good care of them. It was a two way street. They loved us and we loved them. Mutual respect too. Sorry for all of those who never knew how to be a lady.”

            A husband made this remark, “No man wants to cheat, we want to LOVE the one we're with.. for Real... All Husbands LOVE their Wives, that's why YOU were CHOSEN and all those other women LOST THE GAME... YOU WON.. Now Reap the Reward of being our WIFE...”

            Many wish those days in the 60’s could return.

            How attitudes and perspectives have changed!